Ask Ailyn: Answering your questions about blogging and love

Ask Ailyn: Answering your questions about blogging and love

Hi guys,

Lately I have been getting a few questions from some of you guys. So I decided to start a new blog post series called #AskAilyn

***Disclaimer: This is just my opinion, I’m not a professional and I answer each question based on my own experience, values and beliefs systems.

If you want to ask me any questions or get my opinion, let me know! I’m more than happy to help.

You can ask me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook or just email me.

I will keep you anonymous so don’t be shy 🙂


Q. how do I find the time and energy to start to blog?

A. From the outside, blogging can look extremely glamorous and even easy. But this couldn’t be further from the truth. Sure! getting your picture taken requires you to dress up and put on a face and you may feel pretty while doing it.

But honestly, blogging is a lot of work. You need to create, edit and market your own content. You need to be your own tech guru and manage each one of your platforms while also doing many other things.

I would only recommend you to blog if you truly love it. You need to be pretty much obsessed with it, to the point you need to write your posts otherwise you cannot be at peace lol.

If you love something so much, you will structure your days according to your priorities.

You will do the work even if you don’t feel like doing it or if you’re tired.

You will develop patience, discipline and a strong work ethic that will carry you through the challenges and the many behind the scenes drama people don’t see.

Q. What motivated you and inspired you to start a blog?

A. I’m a very visual person. I love beautiful images and art. But as much as I love beautiful aesthetics, I’m probably more passionate about seeing people thrive.

I remember watching movies or reading certain books. I would get really excited about stories where characters had dreams and despite the challenges and the naysayers, they succeeded.

I love an underdog story. I love the phoenix that rises from the ashes.

So, I decided I was going to dedicate my life to do my best to help others reach their potential. I found blogging was the perfect outlet for me to combine my passion for visuals, personal and professional development in a creative way.


Q. Ailyn, I love this guy. He knows I love him but we are not together. He feels too comfortable and I feel he is taking me for granted. How can I manage this situation? I don’t want him to think I’m so head over heels for him!

A. Dear reader, just breathe and step back.

Why do you love him and why isn’t he giving you the attention you need? Love is meant to be mutual, like a beautiful dance where you give and receive. The moment it’s one-sided, love can become quite unsettling and painful.

I would suggest you put yourself first and invest in you. Go and come up with some goals, get your hair done and focus on yourself. Think about what you want in a relationship and figure out if this is what you truly want.

Try not to be too available, give him space and observe.

Trust that everything that comes and goes in your life has a reason. Time will give you your answers and in the mean time be the strong, confident and sexy woman you are and show that guy what he’s missing out 😉

That’s all for today, I hope it helps.

I want to say thank you to the readers who asked me these questions – you know who you are.

Do you have any other questions you would like to ask me? I would love to know.

Thank you for reading!

Love, Ailyn

Ailyn Martinez
Creator of, an online source aimed to help readers design and create powerful brands, profitable businesses and fulfilling lives. Ailyn specialises in personal development, branding, marketing and content creation. Ailyn is also an avid reader, shoe hoarder and handbag lover who is obsessed with making things beautiful. During her time off you can find her looking for images of llamas, alpacas, knitwear and home decor on Pinterest, watching YouTube tutorials or playing with her cat named Teddy.