Dating tips: 4 Questions To Help You Find Out If Your Partner Is The One

Dating tips: 4 Questions To Help You Find Out If Your Partner Is The One

Before we start talking about dating, I wanted to apologise for being absent from blogging during the last few weeks.

As many of you know, I went to visit my family in Colombia and I wanted to spend all my time with them. I just came back to Melbourne last week, and I’m slowly adjusting to my routine again. Phew!

With that in mind, now we can move on to our topic for today.

As we approach February and Valentine’s day is just around the corner, I wanted to write about dating and love.

I’ve had a few serious relationships in my life and I know how challenging dating can be. At times, we get confused and  doubt if the person we are dating is really “the one” (if such a thing exists, but you know what I mean).

So, if you are in a relationship and you have an uneasy feeling that makes you doubt if you want to spend the rest of your life with your partner, this post is for you!

Keep reading …


4 Questions To Help You Find Out If Your Partner Is The One

Let’s Help You Find Out If The Person You Are Dating Is The One

I’m currently single, I’ve had my heart broken many times and I have broken many hearts too. That’s part of life and that’s the risk of falling in love.

That risk is worth taking tho, because finding that person you truly want to spend the rest of your life with will bring us many beautiful experiences.

But what if you are already in a relationship? What if this person ticks almost all your boxes but something doesn’t feel right? What if you are not longer sure about your future with this person?

Don’t panic, you are not crazy. And no, you are not a horrible person either. You are just human and it’s  likely that you are simply confused and in need for clarity.

Therefore, here are 4 simple questions to help you analyse your relationship. Answer them honestly and you will be able to see things more clearly.

As confronting these questions may be, they are necessary. It’s your heart and your life we are talking here. Don’t take it lightly!

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Now, answer the following questions honestly 

1. Do you see yourself with this person for the rest of my life? 

You know that little voice inside yourself? Your instinct, your gut feeling? Well, this is the time to listen to it and try to visualise a future with your partner.

If you feel excited and see a world filled with amazing possibilities, it’s a good sign. It means there is potential to be explored. If you cannot see a future, ask yourself why?

2. Do you share the same vision?

This one is important. You can’t get anywhere if you are both pulling in different directions. It’s time to get real about what you want in life and what your partner wants in life.

Are those dreams and visions compatible? If they are, perfect! If they are not, figure out what can be compromised and what is just non-negotiable.

3. Are you happy with the type of person you are when you’re around him/her? Can you be yourself? 

There is not point in living a life that doesn’t reflect your desires and personality. It’s too much of a burden to have to put on a show everyday to please somebody else.

Do you like how you behave and feel around this person? Are you free to completely be yourself without having to bend over backwards or apologise for being you?

4. Are you two truly in love or are you together for the wrong reasons? 

Sometimes, we are so used to someone and they are so used to us, we may end up confusing this feeling for true love. Spend some time apart and see how you feel and behave.

Trust time and life will show you your answers and eventually, everything falls into place. These questions have helped me in the past, and I’m certain they can help you too. 🙂

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Now your turn, What did you learn in your last relationship?

Love, Ailyn

Ailyn Martinez
Creator of, an online source aimed to help readers design and create powerful brands, profitable businesses and fulfilling lives. Ailyn specialises in personal development, branding, marketing and content creation. Ailyn is also an avid reader, shoe hoarder and handbag lover who is obsessed with making things beautiful. During her time off you can find her looking for images of llamas, alpacas, knitwear and home decor on Pinterest, watching YouTube tutorials or playing with her cat named Teddy.